Togetherness isn’t always a healthy sign. I know of a couple who still spend all their time together. She’s a beautiful blonde. He’s chubby, balding and ugly. She has no real friends. He’s been at her beck & call for 10 years of marriage. It works for them. She is a spoiled brat who recklessly spends money and needs a kick in the pants because of her “attitude.” When they fight, his greatest fear is that she’ll leave (something she constantly threatens him with), so he bends over backward just to make her stay. What do I think? It’s pathetic.

Sorry gossipup, but no I don’t have a link. I read it before they even went to Namibia. I do agree that they are in a very committed relationship and it’s something you could have knocked me over with a feather about.

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Gayle, oh yeah he loved Jennifer, but looking back hindsight has become a bit more 20/20 about some things. I saw him w/G.Paltrow, and he was head in the clouds in love with her snooty butt lol. He was ready for marriage/kids w/her, but that didn’t happen. He was set up with JA, and I think it was an eazy breezy, safe & comfy marriage for both for awhile. I’m telling you, GP broke his heart, and I really feel there were elements of a rebound there with he/JA. I just don’t think looking back that either of them wee head over heals in love with one another. He changed too. He got all glossy and hollywood, and it was fun to see that glamour for a minute. I remember thinking if they ever break up the world would explode lol! I’m sorry, but I have been a fan of his since day one, and I just now believe in my heart that he’s found his true hearts desire in life. He wanted a family, and he got one. He’s really a good guy with a good heart, and I’m not so sure that didn’t get taken for granted by his ex wife. I remember when he was with Diane Sawyer, and I thought, something is getting ready to blow up, and it did. He said he was going to make the life he wanted happen, and he did, but with someone else. I wouldn’t have in a gazillion yrs put Brad & Angelina together….until they got together. Most Brad Pitt “first” fans I know like myself feel the same. Angelina from all I’ve ever read would never had let her kid get attached to him if she didn’t trust the guy, and Brad isn’t IMO the kind of man who would have used a kid to get next to the mother, or use the mother to get next to the kid. I’m sold that they are in a loving and committed relationship for the long haul.

Okay, I have to admit that you have brought out some good info.

I like Aniston okay. I don’t think she’s evil. You said something that may be true of her though. Maybe she didn’t completely lose her heart to Brad. I think she’s not the type of woman to fall helplessly in love with a man to the point that she puts him first. Some women will give their soul to a man. They’ll do anything to please him. I’ve met a few of them. I think Aniston is actually very strong emotionally, despite her whining. I think she whines to vent, but that she is tough. She has a lot of spunk.

I was never hugely a Pitt fan, so I don’t know much about his character. If you believe he’s found his true love, I hope so too and I’m not trying to patronize. It’s evident that they have a beautiful family.

I usually lurk here but was drawn to the debate about nannies.

I have a sister in law with 3 children 9,6 and 3. She insists on doing without a nanny or even a regular baby sitter. When we meet, she’ll say she’s the most over qualified mummy – with 2 master degrees, bi lingual. She’s gets migraines and her then 4.5 year old son mentioned in passing to me that “mum is angry all the time” I asked him why? He says “Dunno”

I have a neighbour with 4 girls 7,5,3 and 18 months. She insists on doing it all herself. No nanny or regular baby sitter. When we meet, she seems calm and relaxed. She home schools the older 2 children. Her girls seem happy too.

Is my sis in law a bad mum? NOT at all. She loves her children and wants the absolute best for them. She would feel guilty if they weren’t getting the best – best organic food, best education and of course, best care. That means to her, that she must be the one CARING for them, no one else can do as good a job. And so, she is sacrificing her aspirations and interests. But It’s just not in her nature to enjoy being with her children 24/7. Personally, I think she would be much better off hiring a regular baby sitter so she can do some part time work – even if all her after tax income goes towards paying off the baby sitter. She would feel better about herself, she would get the intellectual stimulation she needs and EVERYONE would be better off – even her own children.

Is my neighbour a dumb woman? NOT at all. She has a masters in education and used to be a teacher. She is certainly bright enough. She just has no problems being with her children 24/7.

Every woman is different. We have to be careful about definitions. To me, a bad mother is one who doesn’t LOVE her child. I don’t see my sister in law as a bad mother at all. But I do think she is in this regard, an non-conscious mother. By that I mean, she isn’t conscious of her own needs nor is she conscious of her feelings of resentment to her children which they clearly pick up. But she won’t listen and we can only help by offering to babysit her children.

Me?? I loved the 2.5 years as a Stay at home mum. But when my daughter started to go to play school on a regular basis, I was just ready to start work – part time. And that’s what I’ve created for myself. I’ll say straight out, I need to work – part time, from home and still have plenty of time to spend with child and family. To achieve this, I’ve made trade offs. I don’t have a career and even if I do go back to full time work, I’ll be on the mummy track for several more years. Most of my after tax income goes towards getting the help I need, but I know if I can’t work part time, I’ll go bonkers. As woman with a daughter, I think I’m setting a good example to my daughter. I want her to know she has choices and she can create her choices. I want her to know that she must make the choices which are true to her nature. She doesn’t need to feel that she should sacrifice all her aspirations and interests to be a good mother. I learnt that from my own mother.

NoHater-your comments are too much in favor of brad. if he was not deep in love with Jen and married her, he was false too-led her on-maybe not on purpose. she agreed to it, so both were not sincere. can go either way. maybe its why Jen didn’t have a baby, she felt unsure of him or sensed lingering feelings for Paltrow. Jen would know this, but not us.

Bet brad didn’t use Jolie or her son, but believe main attraction was Jolie, so he agreed to take the kid too-loves kids and hungry for his own.

Jolie pictured w/Maddox and Colin Farrell in foreign land-dating, during movie Alexander-getting to know each other- i saw it- feeling him out maybe? also Ethan Hawke w/her and Mad at game- she called him a “good man” – and a foreign actor (dates Kylie Minogue) from one of her last movies-hanging out with him too with Mad.

Me thinks? honest assessment- she was in market for a father for her son.

Handsome together, BP and AJ but I don’t share your view-not a solid match to me. amazing the different opinions here and what we see.

Wait.. I am confused. It says that the nanny and the baby were in the other room, and AJ says she wants to be a hands-on mom and do her own shores. Geeez… Is this woman phony or what? It goes to show you that actresses are nothing without a script. This woman is so eager for the whole world to love and know her than she is in great danger of becoming like Tom Cruise: a ridiculous joke – that’s what happen to people with little talent and way too much money.

Marieanne, You are a fool.

One thing I hate the most is when people such as Marianne, and Jersey Girl up there decide to run their mouths about a truly beautiful soul (angelina) – attempting to reduce her to nothingness that it is clear they feel about themselves. You two may be fat bitches, with insecurities overflowing into your waddled existance, but don’t hate on someone whose multicultured, full of life and ambition, just because she makes you hate yourself for what you have become. You are pathetic souls, and if either one of you have something to say about the truth, now that you’ve heard it – email me, i dare you. pixygypsy@verizon.net

How about everyone stop accusing each other. Everyone has their own opinion but the best opinions are those that aren’t hateful and provide some perspective. I put myself in JA’s shoes and BP’s and AJ’s. And I lean more towards BP and AJ b/c it’s a beautiful thing what they have. So it didn’t work out for JA and BP but now everyone’s moved on so why can’t we?

Besides, An woman who is a humanitarian, career woman, devoted lover AND a mom is somebody who is admirable. How many of us are even close to that? Plus she’s juggling paparrazi and traveling around the world which is stressful. But she tries to be positive and those who call her fake or a liar would call her a bitch if she acted negative, so no matter what she won’t win you over but guess what…..? She could care LESS!

Angie if you haven’t noticed doesn’t care about what people think which is probably how she can deal with all the media and accusations. I don’t think she wants attention b/c she doesn’t even have to ask for it. I’m pretty sure she’s even sick of it. Tom Cruise however was losing his stardom so has perfectly made a fool of himself in oreder to gain any attention he needs. Since Angie hasn’t acted so desperately, surely she doesn’t need it.

Also notice she is one of the few actresses who does interviews about humanitarian efforts instead of plugging her career. Name an A-list actress who is a hands on humanitarian (no, I’m not talking about writing a check to a charity) that in addition has to deal with kids, a hunk(Brad needs his lovin), media, U.N., traveling, and her career all at the same time. Name ONE.