Alan Cumming & Grant Shaffer. Cumming lives in New York City with his partner (via UK civil partnership), graphic artist, Grant Shaffer, and their dogs, Honey and Leon. The couple dated for two years before entering into a civil partnership at the Old Royal Naval College Greenwich on January 7, 2007. After his civil partnership, when asked if he was monogamous, he stated "I don’t believe that monogamy is feasible".