The Menendez brothers, found guilty of killing their parents Josรฉ Menendez and Mary Louise โKittyโ Menendez back in โ96, might see freedom after 30+ years behind bars. As they wait for the Los Angeles DAโs decision, their familyโs stepping up to bat for them. On October 16, relatives spoke out about the boysโ alleged sexual abuse by their dad.
โThe truth is, Lyle and Erik were veiled by the very people who should have protected them, by their parents, by the system, by society at large,โ Kittyโs sister Joan Anderson VanderMolen shared at the press conference. โWhen they stood trial, the whole world wasnโt ready to believe that the boys could be raped, or that young men could be victims of sexual violence. Today, we know better. We know that abuse has long lasting effects, and victims of trauma sometimes act in ways that are very difficult to understand.โ
โIf it were tried today, the evidence of their fatherโs abuse would not only be admitted in court, it would provide essential context for why they acted as they did,โ she added. โNo jury today would issue such a harsh sentence without taking their trauma into account.โ
The brothers had previously testified that fear and self-defense drove them to commit the crimes, following years of abuse โ physical, emotional, and sexual. New evidence has caught LA District Attorney George Gascรณnโs eye as he considers re-sentencing. This includes a letter Erik allegedly wrote to his cousin Andy Cano a year before the killings, detailing the abuse.
Embed from Getty ImagesโIโve been trying to avoid dad. Its still happening Andy but its worse for me now,โ the 1995 letter stated. โI never know when its going to happen and its driving me crazy. Every night I stay up thinking he might come in.โ
Josรฉโs niece Anamaria Baralt urged folks to see Erik and Lyle as victims too.
โLyle and Eric would continue to be victimized. They would be victims of a system that wouldnโt hear them, and they would be victims of a culture that was not ready to listen,โ she expressed at the news conference. โThey would be mocked. They would be called cold blooded killers, left to rot in jail and denied any hope of redemption.โ
This case makes you think, doesnโt it? Itโs not just black and white. Thereโs a whole lot of gray, and itโs heartbreaking to consider what these brothers might have gone through. As pop culture fans, we often see sensationalized versions of true crime stories. But this one? Itโs a stark reminder that real people, real pain, and real trauma lie behind the headlines.
Embed from Getty ImagesโItโs time to see the unfairness theyโve faced and give them the fresh start they deserve,โ she pointed out. โIโm here asking the DAโs office to look at the whole picture, the truth that was hidden for so long. Lyle and Eric should have a chance to heal, and our family should have a chance to heal with them.โ
The brothers shared their side of the story in Netflixโs The Menendez Brothers documentary about the 1989 killing of their parents. Erik explained why he felt they couldnโt just leave their familyโs home.
โWhy I didnโt run away was a big part of the trial, with the DA always saying, โWell you had the chance to leave,'โ the 53-year-old said in the documentary. โI was raised to believe I could never get away. The idea was beaten into meโprogrammed into my brain that I could never escape.โ
Even though their relationship with their parents was tough and painful, Erik also talked about the regrets heโs had since the crime.
Embed from Getty ImagesโSome people think I didnโt love my father or mother,โ Erik shared. โThatโs not true at all. I miss my mom so much. I wish I could go back and talk to her, hug her and tell her I love her. I wanted her to love me and be happy with me, happy that I was her son. I just want to feel that connection and joy.โ
Lyle, 56, and Erikโboth in Richard J. Donovan Correctional Facility in San Diegoโhave stuck together through it all, even when facing hard memories. Years after the first trial, Erik talked about how he felt when his brother said sorry for molesting him as a kid after their dad had raped him from ages 6 to 8.
โThat hit me hard,โ he said in the documentary. โHeโd never apologized to me before.โ
This story really makes you think, doesnโt it? As pop culture fans, we often see these true crime stories from a distance. But hearing the brothersโ words reminds us thereโs real pain behind the headlines. Itโs not just about guilt or innocenceโitโs about understanding trauma and its effects.